Geneviève reminds women not to lose themselves in parenting.
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Quand on est une maman on a tendance à s’oublier, puis quand on est en dépression, c’est encore pire parce qu’on se dit justement que toute l’énergie qu’on a, il faut qu’on l’investisse pour notre enfant parce qu’on n’en a pas beaucoup puis si on n’a pas beaucoup de choses à donner, bien tout doit lui aller à lui. C’est vraiment important de ne pas s’oublier en tant que personne. Si on a la chance d’avoir un partenaire, c’est important aussi de ne pas oublier que lui est là. Puis qu’on est un couple avant d’être des parents. Donc il faut essayer de penser à toutes les sphères parents, amoureux, personnes à part entière. Mais je dirais que la plus importante, c’est vraiment d’être une personne à part entière. Parce que si on n’est pas heureux nous-même avec nous-même, ça se transmet dans les autres sphères, puis c’est la base de ne pas s’oublier. Donc c’est important de quand même penser à prendre du temps pour nous. Même si on n’a pas beaucoup d’énergie, même si on n’a pas beaucoup de temps, même si toutes les ressources ont l’air d’être utilisées pour ailleurs, penser à soi, c’est vraiment, vraiment, vraiment important.
[When you’re a mom, you tend to forget about yourself. And when you’re dealing with depression, it’s even worse, because you tell yourself that whatever energy you do have, you have to invest it all in your child — because you don’t have much, and if you don’t have much to give, well, everything should go to them. It’s really important not to forget yourself as a person. If you’re lucky enough to have a partner, it’s also important not to forget that they are there too. And that you were a couple before you were parents. So you have to try to think about all the spheres: being parents, being partners in love, and being individuals. But I would say the most important one is really being a person in your own right. Because if you’re not happy with yourself, it carries over into all the other areas. And it’s the foundation — not forgetting yourself. So it’s important to still make time for yourself. Even if you don’t have much energy, even if you don’t have much time, even if all your resources seem like they’re being used elsewhere — thinking about yourself is really, really, really important.] Translation from the original French.
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